Two weeks ago I began this series of posts to explore the self-limiting beliefs that caregivers often have that hold them back from reaching out for the love and support that they and their loved ones need.
The first one I explored was: Nobody else can do what I do for my loved one.
The second one was: My loved one won’t accept help from anyone but me.
This week’s belief to explore is:
I’m too busy to even begin to think about doing anything more – even reaching out.
This belief is very easy to understand and to be empathetic with. When we’re exhausted or on overwhelm, how are we going to begin thinking about doing anything beyond what we’re already doing? And reaching out certainly sounds like a major bit of doing.
But, as you might suspect, I don’t see it that way. I’d like you to consider the idea that reaching out is not just another item on a “to do” list. It’s on a different kind of list, a “to be” list. This item on the list is about being connected. About being receptive to the web of connections that can make our tough times much more endurable and our better times much more enjoyable.
Since I said this is not another to do, but a to be, let’s let this be a very short blog.
Instead of my usual suggestions of things to do to move forward on the topic being discussed, how about simply taking a few moments and imagine yourself being open to receiving the love and support that is flowing towards you. Try this even if you don’t quite believe it right now. Relax into it. Imagine your antenna beaming out letting people know you are in receptive mode. Relax into it.
So be it. (Sorry, I just couldn’t resist saying this!). That’s all for now. I want you to take good care of yourself. And opening up more to love and support is a great way of doing that.
Stay tuned for my next week’s assault on other beliefs that hold caregivers back from getting the love and support that they need.